When it comes to stories about sex, the male gaze remains a constant threat to portrayals of real intimacy without the performative, who-is-this-for-anyway? energy that totally kills the mood. One partial solution? Cut the literal gaze entirely and pair with radical, honest and complicated portrayals of sex. Demi Moore’s latest project, “Dirty Diana” is an erotic podcast that does just that — and unapologetically centers women’s sexual pleasure in a positive and shame-free way.
“There’s so much unspoken shame attached to our sexuality. It’s this conditioning telling us that it’s only okay for us to desire sex if it’s for the purpose of procreation or if it’s somebody that we intend to be with for the rest of our lives,” Moore told Vogue in a recent interview. “Even though we’re modern women who can feel that we are more liberated, it’s still this undercurrent. [Dirty Diana] was so sex-positive. I was in.”
The sexy podcast follows the story of Diana (played by Moore) who, unsatisfied in a sexless and uninteresting marriage, secretly runs an erotic website where women reveal their intimate sexual fantasies and features the voice talent of other celebs you may recognize (including Melanie Griffith, Lena Dunham and Lili Taylor) along the way. And somehow the entire thing was recorded on Zoom!
Dr. Margaret Dufreney of New Jersey discusses why more women are choosing IUDs over other forms of birth control.
When it comes to birth control, women have a lot more choices to pick from than they realize. Most women begin with taking oral contraceptives, or the pill, because it is easy to take. However, not all oral contraceptives agree with every woman’s body or hectic schedules. Because of this, more women in today’s society are choosing to use an Intrauterine Device (IUD) for their birth control. IUDs have wonderful benefits, but there are inherent risks involved as well.
An IUD is literally a T-shaped device that is placed in a woman’s uterus. Depending on the type of IUD, it will block an egg from attaching to the uterine wall or it will use hormones to prevent a woman from ovulating. Surprisingly, IUDs have been available to women just as long as oral contraceptives. But in the 1970s, IUDs became discouraged because one type was made with an “ill designed removal string that funneled bacteria into the uterus”. After some serious developing, IUDs were back on the market by 1988 and are completely safe to use as birth control today.
Once upon a time, people thought sexuality was pretty simplistic: You were either gay or straight, and that was that. Now, more and more people are learning that it’s not so simple…or binary. There are a slew of other identities, including pansexuality, bisexuality, asexuality, and demisexuality.
Despite the more nuanced understanding of sexuality, mix-ups still happen. A common point of confusion comes up when trying to pinpoint the characteristics that make bisexuality unique from pansexuality. “’Bisexual’ is a commonly known and understood term,” says Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, a psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist, and author of What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex. “‘Pansexual’ not so much.”
Why? Because people often use the terms interchangeably, says Margaret Nichols, PhD, author of the upcoming book, Queering the Psychotherapy Room: the Modern Clinician’s Guide to LGBTQ+ Clients.
Language around sexuality is also changing quickly, as people who once identified one way discover there may be more accurate ways to describe and differentiate themselves, Buehler says. Here, experts break down the frequently misunderstood characteristics of pansexuality vs. bisexuality, plus the major differences to keep in mind.